When it comes to finding a girl who is “The one”, it can be nice for a guy to find a girl that he believes he is physically attracted to. Or in other words, is a “hot girlfriend”.
Physical looks shouldn’t be the only thing for the relationship. People will often have a deeper and more meaningful connection if they feel like they are right for each other.
Getting a girl that is physically hot is achievable. No matter who you are or how you look like. Attraction comes in many ways, and it isn’t just looks. So you need to know what are the attractive qualities within yourself that will attract others to you.
Something that is important to keep in mind is that you don’t want to dismiss a person that could be interested in you for a number of reasons. By assuming that she is “out of your league”, you are sacrificing an opportunity for her to get to know you, as well as for you to know her.
So what are some of the things that you can do to get a hot girl?
Nobody admires people who are timid. People are attracted to those who are bold and ambitious. So you need to figure out what makes you bold and ambitious, and then come across confidently.
If this doesn’t happen for you naturally, act as if you are confident.
Nobody wants to be around a person that is boring. Share your passions with others that are like-minded. You only need to be interesting to those who share a common interest. Not all hot girls will share your interest. But you are only looking for one that does.
Allow her to learn something new.
All types of people want to grow in some way. They don’t want to feel limited. So are there things that you can show her that will allow her to grow as a person and as an individual. Can you show her something life-changing that will give her a sense of empowerment?
For example, show her a skill that she can use for the rest of her life. It doesn’t have to be complicated. It just has to be something that you know. If you do martial arts, show her a simple unlock move.
If you cook, show her a recipe that she can always use in the future. If you dance, show her a move that she can use to have fun. If you play chess, teach her tactics to win the game in a few moves. The possibilities are endless.
Bring her into your entertaining lifestyle.
She knows the lifestyle that she is living. But she wants to explore the realms of possibilities outside of her lifestyle. Is there something that you can give her that isn’t possible in her own life? This might be exploring out on the open road. Or being able to engage in interesting discussions or debates.
Life is dull. Inject fun from your life into hers.
This is the most important thing that you have to do to create the opportunity. The more you approach, the more likely you will find someone that will want to get to know you better.
If you think of it in terms of numbers, you might need to meet 50-100 hot women in order to get one to say yes. It is a numbers game. And the more no’s you get, the closer you will get to that one hot girl saying ‘yes’ to you.
Go after those hot girls who are interested in the things in your lifestyle.
If you are someone that is into art and she is into drinking and partying, it is going to be harder to find the one will be interested in you. Approach those hot girls that are interested in a lifestyle that you are involved in. For example:
- If she is a musician and you are a musician, you can meet hot girls at a music jam.
- If she is into art and you are into art, you can meet hot girls at an art club or exhibition.
- If she is into similar sports events to you, then approach those girls at those sports events.
This will make it easier for you to approach her and engage in a meaningful conversation.
Some things you should never do.
Never ever feel like you should pay her way.
You aren’t a bank account that she can happily draw funds from. You don’t want to be with a girl that is a gold digger. You want someone that wants to be with you for being you. Not for the size of your wallet.
Never feel like you are out of her league.
Don’t sacrifice the chance to meet someone and change their life in a meaningful way. Even if the interaction doesn’t lead to a relationship, it could lead to being a friend or someone influential in your network.
Never feel like you are too ugly to get a hot girl.
At the end of the day, genetics and physical training determine how we look on the outside, but not what is on the inside. You don’t know what the other person might be attracted to with you.
There’s the old saying that “One man’s trash is another mans treasure.” Always remember that whatever you have is someone’s treasure. You only need to connect with that one person.
Question: Why do many ugly guys end up dating hot girls?
Most of the time it is because many of these women never get approached by men. The men often feel like they are out of their league and never approach them to have a discussion or to flirt.
It only takes a guy with the confidence to initiate a conversation, which might be enough to captivate her interest.
More often than not, it is these guys who are deemed as ‘ugly’ who feel like they have nothing to lose when approaching and actually get the girl that they want.
Here are a few helpful book titles that you can also purchase on Amazon.
Rules of the Game – Neil Strauss
The Game – Neil Strauss
Direct Day Game Method – Pickup Girls on the Street, at the Mall or Coffee Shop – Charlie Valentino
Destroy Approach Anxiety – Effortlessly approach women without fear – Charlie Valentino
48 laws of Power – Robert Green (This book will allow you to become bolder and more influential, which are attractive qualities)
Irresistible persuasion – The secret way to get “Yes” everytime – This shows how you can improve your persuasive dialogue.
Words that sell – This will allow you to use buzz words. Your charisma is about saying the right thing at the right time.
The power of now – Eckhart Tolle – This will show you how to live in the moment and improve your spontaneity.
Make her chase you – By Tynan
Become a person of influence – Daniel Priestley – This will show you how to find yourself and how your actions in life will turn you into a social magnet.
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