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What do you do after getting engaged? (Wedding planning)

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Firstly, congratulations on your engagement. The My Perfect Marriage Proposal team is very happy for you and your fiance.

Now that you are officially engaged, you need to think about what is going to happen next. I’ll admit from experience that things tend to go very quickly and there are new types of pressures and  challenges that you will need to deal with.

So here are a few things that you can do after you get engaged.

Enjoy the moment with your partner.

It is about the two of you. So cherish the engagement moment together.

You can get a memories book that highlights your moments from the proposal to your wedding day.

Share the news.

It is a happy moment for you and your partner, so share the news with those that you care about and celebrate the moment.

Have the “after engagement talk”.

This is really important because you will need to discuss what ideas you both have for the wedding and how to make it a reality. You will need to discuss things such as:

  • When the two of you want to have the wedding.
  • How much the two of you plan to spend on the wedding.
  • How you plan to pay for the wedding.
  • What type of wedding the two of you will have.
  • Who will be invited?

There may be some other things that the two of you need to talk about as your relationship will change. So you can also check out the book “From me to we”.

How should you behave with your fiance after the engagement?

You should continue to show love to one another, however the wedding planning process can create frustration and agitation towards your partner. If you have the budget to hire a wedding planner, do so to avoid any unnecessary stress. Also remember to focus on the positives with your partner.

You will need to start planning the wedding.

You need to work out a plan with your partner so that things will go smoothly. There’s the saying “Fail to plan, you are planned to fail.” So start by buying wedding planning guides to help you both through the wedding planning experience. Click the link to browse the wedding planning book from The Knot.

Note – This post contains affiliate links, however the opinions are my own. 

Engagement ring cam box

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Have you considered trying to capture the reaction of your wife-to-be on film. There are a few ways you can do it.

You can ask a friend or a videographer to capture you and your wife to be from a distance. The only thing is unless they have the right equipment, it will be difficult to capture the close-up reaction and the audio upfront.

However, you can opt for an engagement ring camera box that will capture her reaction as you open the box.

If you can capture her reaction from different angles using a camera box and a videographer, you can then capture the moment from different angles and edit it into a video.

Should you invest in an engagement ring cam box?

If you have the budget and if you would like to capture the moment on camera for you to relive the experience, then yes. It is definitely worth investing in.

How much will it cost to buy?

Expect to pay around $100 for the item.

You can resell the engagement ring box after the proposal.

If you decide that you don’t want to keep it, just resell the box on a site like eBay, Craigslist or Gumtree, where someone will probably buy it from you.

If you would like to learn more about the item, you can click here.

Note – This post contains affiliate links, however the opinions are my own. 

Is it normal to feel nervous about getting engaged?

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If you invest your emotions in a specific outcome, you will naturally start to feel nervous or anxious about what will happen afterwards. When it comes to proposing to the woman that you love, it is a natural feeling to have.

This is also known as pre-engagement anxiety; or pre-proposal anxiety.

The anxiousness can raise so high that it can make you feel like you want to avoid the proposal or even make you stumble over your words. Most men don’t realise what is the source of their anxiety when proposing. In fact, it isn’t the notion of the proposal itself, but rather the outcome and the ‘fear of failure’ if they don’t get the answer that they are hoping for.

There are a few ways to manage the anxiety so that the proposal for your engagement goes smoothly.

Think about the successful outcome of the proposal 5 seconds after you propose.

This is probably the best way to approach the marriage proposal. She will either say yes or no. But you can say propose with the intention that she says yes. That way, you will deliver your proposal request with confidence.

Rehearse what you want to say and how she will respond positively.

Practice makes perfect. Practice on your own or with a friend so you will know what to say and how to react when she does say yes to your marriage proposal request.

Say what you want to say with boldness and confidence.

Boldness is essential if you want her to say yes. Don’t be nervous. Propose to her with boldness.

If you feel nervous, say what you want to say with nervous excitement.

It is normal to feel nervous, so make sure that you trick your body into feeling excited when you are talking. You will come across more charismatic and confident when you propose.

What kind of feelings should I have after getting engaged?

Both you and your partner should feel joyful after getting engaged. For some people, it can feel a bit overwhelming, however the emotions that you should be feeling is overall happiness.

Is it possible to feel post-engagement anxiety?

Yes it is, but that’s only because you are thinking about the planning ahead of you. After the proposal, just celebrate the moment. Live in the now and enjoy the post-proposal moment.

Which hand and finger do you wear an engagement ring?

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The engagement ring will be placed on the middle finger. (Next to the pinky finger)

Why do people place the engagement ring on this finger?

The tradition can be traced back to ancient Roman times as people believed that one of the veins in the fingers led straight into the heart. (Vena amoris)

This differs by culture. Gay and lesbian couples tend to wear their rings on their right finger as a sign of being in a monogamous relationship.

Men in the Eastern Orthodox Christian church may also wear their ring on their right finger.

In some cultures, when a woman switches her rings to her right hand, it is a sign that she is a widow.

Can you put a ring on your middle finger?

Engagement ring finger in Hindu

According to traditions in India, the left hand was regarded as suspicious. So it had been common to wear an engagement ring on the third finger on the right hand. However, there are many couples that have opted to follow Western tradition and put an engagement ring on the left hand.

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How long do you have to wait to get married after proposing?

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In an ideal world, you will be able to get married pretty quickly. But the reality is that it is difficult to plan for, budget and coordinate a wedding. There are people who can organise a wedding in less than 6 months, but it is often rushed if it is done without the help of a wedding planner.

Instead, it is better to take your time to plan the exact wedding that you want and to budget for the day. Aim to give yourself 18 to 24 months to prepare for the wedding.

Given that the average cost of a wedding is approximately $20,000, this will help you to raise the funds and budget for the wedding costs.

Do things within your means and don’t feel pressured to get married too soon after proposing.