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Are you infatuated or in love?

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This is really important to understand before your propose and get married with your girlfriend. It is good to be in love with the woman that you love. However, it is not ok to be infatuated with the girl that you want to marry. It’s important that you understand the difference between the two and how it can impact the relationship between you and your wife in the future.

What is infatuation?

When you are infatuated with someone, you mistake it for love. Instead, you are obsessed with someone to the point where you feel like they should belong to you, rather than letting the relationship evolve due to the two of you sharing a mutual affection for each other.

From a guys point of view, here are a few ways they fall into the infatuation trap.

They are physically attracted by the woman that they are with.

You are obsessed with the looks, beauty or physical appeal of the woman that you are with. While it is ok to feel proud of your woman’s beauty, it should not be the main factor that drives your relationship. If you think that you only want to be with her because you fear you won’t be able to date someone else that’s as attractive as her, it is a sign that you are in the relationship for the wrong reason.

Guys will often think:

“She is the most beautiful/hottest girl that I’ve ever dated, and I don’t want to let her go.”

That train of thought can make a guy become possessive and value the relationship for the wrong reasons.

The treat the woman as if she is his prize.

A woman is not to be treated as an object, so if you find yourself objectifying her as your prize, you are in the relationship for the wrong reason

He becomes possessive and controlling around her.

This is a terrible sign and it will signal that your relationship is doomed to fail. If you find that you don’t give your girlfriend the freedom and trust that she deserves, then you are controlling her because you want to be possessive of her. Trust her and she will trust you. Give her freedom and it will be reciprocated.

You aren’t willing to let go.

Being with someone is a choice. They will choose to be with you or they will choose not to. If they don’t, respect it and move on. If they do, embrace it and cherish every moment

Do you want a trophy wife?

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OK guys. This is an important post because alot of men can actually marry their dream girl for the wrong reason. You want your future wife to be your princess and the love of your life. However, love can be mistaken for infatuation. Especially when a man desires to have a trophy wife that he can show off to his friends and family.

Now, you can have any girl that you want. But keep in mind that if you only want to have her as a trophy wife, then expect to deal with the baggage that comes with having a trophy wife.

This has been happening for generations. It will continue to happen long into the future. But at least you can make yourself aware and then make a decision as to whether you should have this person in your life for the right reasons.

Why do guys want a trophy wife?

Guys love attractive females. If the girl looks physically hot, he will be attracted to her and will feel proud to have the girl on his arm.  The catch is that many guys fall into an obsession with the girl based on her looks and not the person that she is. As a result, the guy chooses to ignore her bad qualities, which will result in problems further down the line.

It also makes the guy become infatuated with the girl, which can lead to over-protectionism, controlling and manipulation, which isn’t good for any relationship.

A girl that knows she is a trophy wife will act as a prize.

This means you will be in a position where you will be answering to her instead of the two of you working in collaboration in the marriage. There is a reputation for trophy wives not to work.

What qualities should you be looking out for?

Is she a friend first?

Your life partner will be your best friend. The two of you will want to work with each other and never against each other.

You love her for the person that she is.

Love isn’t skin deep. Everyone gets older and eventually the looks will fade. As a person, does she complete you in all of the ways that you imagine?

Your life is richer because they are in your life.

Your partner should be the richest asset in your life. Helping you grow in wisdom, love, finances and anything else that your heart desires.

You can learn more about the history of trophy wives on Wikipedia.

How to know she loves you?

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There is alot of meaning when someone says “I love you”. It is a commitment on another level and it confirms your feelings and intuition for another. If the other person doesn’t share the same feeling, it can be heartbreaking. And it can take a great deal of time for someone to get over the loving feeling that they gave to another.

So before expressing the words and going all in, here are a few things that you can consider.

How do you know she loves you secretly?

She will usually spend as much time as possible with you. The two of you will have an underlying friendship and companionship, where you will enjoy each other’s company and the experiences that you create together.

Have you noticed any signs that she loves you deeply?

She will express several signs that she is falling in love with you. There is an element of care and commitment that she will demonstrate in your relationship. Usually, it is the small things that compliment your lifestyle. She is there for you when others aren’t. And she will help you get closer towards your personal goals.

She will be able to show signs that she loves you without saying a single word.

What’s the biggest sign that she is in love with you?

It sounds a bit like a cliche, but the way she looks at you and the way she behaves around you will be the biggest signs. She will look at you with an adoring look and will also make you the centre of her world.

Will she show signs that she loves you, but is scared?

If you haven’t confessed your love to her, then it is likely that she may show signs of frustrations in your relationship. If you notice this, express simple acts of kindness where you can demonstrate your affection to her.

Want to find your perfect partner? Try these online dating sites.

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If you have struggled to find the perfect partner, try out these sites to help you find ‘the one’.

Seeking Arrangement.

The website actually positions men as being ‘Sugar Daddys’ and claims that there are 4 girls for every guy that is on the website. It is a bold claim. And you can assume that the girls will be good looking and wanting a man that can offer something better than the average lifestyle.

Click here to sign-up and start browsing. 

ChristianCafe.com

We’ve already written a more detailed post about Christain Online Dating sites. If you are someone that is looking for a person that has a like-minded Christian mind, then the Christian Cafe is one that you should consider.

Click here to start browsing.

Some commonly asked questions?

Which is the best dating site for me?

That depends on your lifestyle. Ultimately, you are looking for a parter that is compatible and shares similar interests to you. So look for them on sites where like-minded people are.

What is the best online dating site for free?

You do have Plenty of Fish. The site boasts alot of users, but you get a lower quality of users on the website compared to those who pay for a premium service. At the end of the day, you get what you pay for. And if you are serious about finding a life partner, you don’t want to save a few bucks in exchange for meeting the wrong person.

 

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How to avoid gold diggers (gold digger quiz)

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There are so many men in the world that are blinded by love or infatuation when they are physiclly attracted to a girl that they like. And in many cases, the guy mistakes ‘love’ for infatuation when in fact she is actually attracted to him for his wealth, power or influence. It is an exchange. And gold diggers know what they want.

They are attracted to a man that can provide them with the lifestyle that they want. For lack of a better term, they are after a sugar daddy.

You may be with your partner and you might be ready to propose to her. But you want to make sure that you aren’t about to inherit a gold digger for life. So take the following quiz to help assess the dynamic of your relationship and that she is marrying you out of love and that she is not just using you for your money.

How should you deal with gold diggers?

The first thing is don’t pay for anything. If they feel like they are entitled to have someone pay their way for them, they will continue to expect that treatment in the future. Instead, let them know that they can pay their own way or reiterate their own self-dependence.

What kind of signs should you look out for with gold diggers?

She likes the material things that you have.

You may have a car, house, clothes, jewellery or other items that she fancies about you. If you notice that she talks about what you have more than yourself, there’s a good chance she is a gold digger.

She likes the fact that you are a status symbol.

This happens alot with men that are celebrities or have powerful influence, such as politicians, aristocrats or people in upper management.

Does she have expensive taste?

Does she like to live the luxury life, but does not want to pay for it herself?

Is the relationship one-way?

Does she do anything for you? Or does she expect you to treat her like a princess 24/7.

Does she work?

Or is she career minded? Or is she planning an early retirement where you will bankroll the relationship.

Does she freak out when she doesn’t get her way?

If that is the case, then it’s likely she will become problematic over time.

There are honest gold diggers out there. Don’t be a fool.

There are some girls who will be completely open and honest about wanting to meet and marry a man who can provide them with everything. And usually, this means that they want to marry a rich man.

If this is the case, don’t be a fool and make excuses for the girl being with you for other reasons other than the money that you can offer her. If the two of you agree to that type of relationship, it is fine. But if you don’t want a gold digger, then don’t entertain the thought of her loving you for you if she tells you she only wants to be with you because you are rich.

Below is an example of a guy that was foolish enough to do that. (Commentary is courtesy of H3H3)

Do you have any thoughts? Please share them in the comments below.

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