Men know the answer to this question and rarely say what they are actually thinking. The truth is, there is quite a bit of risk when it comes to marriage. There are questions such as:
- Am I marrying the right person?
- Am I giving up my freedom?
- Is this what I really want?
- Do I really want to transition from being a couple to being married and starting a family?
- Do I really want to take on more of the financial responsibility?
The list goes on.
Honestly, the guys who know all of the risk and are the ones who are still prepared to take the chance are the right ones for marriage. The ones who have a fear of marriage are likely going to keep their partners waiting for a surprise that may never happen.
As a man, you need to be honest with yourself when it comes to marriage.
This is the reality of life after marriage.
You will be committed to one person. So if you want a lifestyle where you are meeting, flinging and enjoying yourself with multiple partners, then marriage probably isn’t for you.
Your life will be dedicated to this one partner. You will know if you want to dedicate your time, energy, efforts, money and emotions to this person.
Marriage is for life. You will have ups and downs.
Marriage is about misery as much as joy. There will be several times when you will be tempted to walk away or to give up on marriage. But if this person is “The one”, you will find a way.
Half of everything that you own will become your wife’s.
Unless otherwise stated in the region that you marry or if you have a prenup agreement. Many men have to accept the fact that their future wives will be entitled to 50% of everything that they own and that they earn. Should the relationship end, it is likely that the men will need to payout more and may even be responsible for additional payments such as child support.
If a man knows that he wants to pursue marriage despite knowing all of these risks that can affect the quality of his life, you will find that he won’t make any excuses and he will commit to making it happen because he wants to make it happen.
Not all guys want marriage. And not all are obliged to. There are many though who want to pursue the dream of marriage and having the perfect wedding to their perfect wife.
Be honest with yourselves guys. Know what you want. And then be honest with her. Don’t string her along on the hope of a marriage or a proposal that will never happen.
Tip for women that want their partner to take action!
You don’t need to be a bitch, but you do need to be assertive and bold with what you want out of life. You also need to be prepared to ‘let go of him’ if he doesn’t treat you with the respect that you deserve.
Another handy book that you can use is “The Complete Book of Rules”. This will keep your man on edge and motivate him to take action rather than having him fall into the ‘comfort zone’ in the relationship.
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