My perfect marriage proposal

Give your partner the perfect proposal experience.

David

What do you do after getting engaged? (Wedding planning)

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Firstly, congratulations on your engagement. The My Perfect Marriage Proposal team is very happy for you and your fiance.

Now that you are officially engaged, you need to think about what is going to happen next. I’ll admit from experience that things tend to go very quickly and there are new types of pressures and  challenges that you will need to deal with.

So here are a few things that you can do after you get engaged.

Enjoy the moment with your partner.

It is about the two of you. So cherish the engagement moment together.

You can get a memories book that highlights your moments from the proposal to your wedding day.

Share the news.

It is a happy moment for you and your partner, so share the news with those that you care about and celebrate the moment.

Have the “after engagement talk”.

This is really important because you will need to discuss what ideas you both have for the wedding and how to make it a reality. You will need to discuss things such as:

  • When the two of you want to have the wedding.
  • How much the two of you plan to spend on the wedding.
  • How you plan to pay for the wedding.
  • What type of wedding the two of you will have.
  • Who will be invited?

There may be some other things that the two of you need to talk about as your relationship will change. So you can also check out the book “From me to we”.

How should you behave with your fiance after the engagement?

You should continue to show love to one another, however the wedding planning process can create frustration and agitation towards your partner. If you have the budget to hire a wedding planner, do so to avoid any unnecessary stress. Also remember to focus on the positives with your partner.

You will need to start planning the wedding.

You need to work out a plan with your partner so that things will go smoothly. There’s the saying “Fail to plan, you are planned to fail.” So start by buying wedding planning guides to help you both through the wedding planning experience. Click the link to browse the wedding planning book from The Knot.

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Are you infatuated or in love?

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This is really important to understand before your propose and get married with your girlfriend. It is good to be in love with the woman that you love. However, it is not ok to be infatuated with the girl that you want to marry. It’s important that you understand the difference between the two and how it can impact the relationship between you and your wife in the future.

What is infatuation?

When you are infatuated with someone, you mistake it for love. Instead, you are obsessed with someone to the point where you feel like they should belong to you, rather than letting the relationship evolve due to the two of you sharing a mutual affection for each other.

From a guys point of view, here are a few ways they fall into the infatuation trap.

They are physically attracted by the woman that they are with.

You are obsessed with the looks, beauty or physical appeal of the woman that you are with. While it is ok to feel proud of your woman’s beauty, it should not be the main factor that drives your relationship. If you think that you only want to be with her because you fear you won’t be able to date someone else that’s as attractive as her, it is a sign that you are in the relationship for the wrong reason.

Guys will often think:

“She is the most beautiful/hottest girl that I’ve ever dated, and I don’t want to let her go.”

That train of thought can make a guy become possessive and value the relationship for the wrong reasons.

The treat the woman as if she is his prize.

A woman is not to be treated as an object, so if you find yourself objectifying her as your prize, you are in the relationship for the wrong reason

He becomes possessive and controlling around her.

This is a terrible sign and it will signal that your relationship is doomed to fail. If you find that you don’t give your girlfriend the freedom and trust that she deserves, then you are controlling her because you want to be possessive of her. Trust her and she will trust you. Give her freedom and it will be reciprocated.

You aren’t willing to let go.

Being with someone is a choice. They will choose to be with you or they will choose not to. If they don’t, respect it and move on. If they do, embrace it and cherish every moment

Engagement rings for men?

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It’s not a common practice, but there are men that wear engagement rings. If you look at pop singer Ed Sheeran, he chooses to sport an engagement ring as an equal sign of promise for marriage. Traditionally in Western culture, men do not wear engagement rings and only provide the ring to the woman that they would like to marry.

However, it has been common practice in many Eastern European cultures for men to wear an engagement ring as well.

Really, the choice is up to you if you would like to wear an engagement ring. But you shouldn’t expect your wife-to-be to purchase the ring on your behalf (although you can ask her to).

If you would like, you can check out some of the men’s engagement rings or promise rings that are available from the following retailers.

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Engagement ring cam box

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Have you considered trying to capture the reaction of your wife-to-be on film. There are a few ways you can do it.

You can ask a friend or a videographer to capture you and your wife to be from a distance. The only thing is unless they have the right equipment, it will be difficult to capture the close-up reaction and the audio upfront.

However, you can opt for an engagement ring camera box that will capture her reaction as you open the box.

If you can capture her reaction from different angles using a camera box and a videographer, you can then capture the moment from different angles and edit it into a video.

Should you invest in an engagement ring cam box?

If you have the budget and if you would like to capture the moment on camera for you to relive the experience, then yes. It is definitely worth investing in.

How much will it cost to buy?

Expect to pay around $100 for the item.

You can resell the engagement ring box after the proposal.

If you decide that you don’t want to keep it, just resell the box on a site like eBay, Craigslist or Gumtree, where someone will probably buy it from you.

If you would like to learn more about the item, you can click here.

Note – This post contains affiliate links, however the opinions are my own. 

Is it normal to feel nervous about getting engaged?

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If you invest your emotions in a specific outcome, you will naturally start to feel nervous or anxious about what will happen afterwards. When it comes to proposing to the woman that you love, it is a natural feeling to have.

This is also known as pre-engagement anxiety; or pre-proposal anxiety.

The anxiousness can raise so high that it can make you feel like you want to avoid the proposal or even make you stumble over your words. Most men don’t realise what is the source of their anxiety when proposing. In fact, it isn’t the notion of the proposal itself, but rather the outcome and the ‘fear of failure’ if they don’t get the answer that they are hoping for.

There are a few ways to manage the anxiety so that the proposal for your engagement goes smoothly.

Think about the successful outcome of the proposal 5 seconds after you propose.

This is probably the best way to approach the marriage proposal. She will either say yes or no. But you can say propose with the intention that she says yes. That way, you will deliver your proposal request with confidence.

Rehearse what you want to say and how she will respond positively.

Practice makes perfect. Practice on your own or with a friend so you will know what to say and how to react when she does say yes to your marriage proposal request.

Say what you want to say with boldness and confidence.

Boldness is essential if you want her to say yes. Don’t be nervous. Propose to her with boldness.

If you feel nervous, say what you want to say with nervous excitement.

It is normal to feel nervous, so make sure that you trick your body into feeling excited when you are talking. You will come across more charismatic and confident when you propose.

What kind of feelings should I have after getting engaged?

Both you and your partner should feel joyful after getting engaged. For some people, it can feel a bit overwhelming, however the emotions that you should be feeling is overall happiness.

Is it possible to feel post-engagement anxiety?

Yes it is, but that’s only because you are thinking about the planning ahead of you. After the proposal, just celebrate the moment. Live in the now and enjoy the post-proposal moment.