If you want to get married to the love of your life, you essentially need to marry the person who will become your best friend. But it is common for women to not feel attracted to guys that act friendly towards them. These guys who are the perfect guys that they are looking for end up being friends with these girls, but the relationship never evolves beyond a platonic friendship.
The girl may say that it is a good thing, but for guys, it is a painful reminder being attracted to a girl that you will never have.
If you want to get out of the friend zone, you must know how to attract her emotionally, whilst you also demonstrate your friendly traits that will make her recognise that you aren’t just ‘boyfriend material’, but marriage material.
Getting out of the friend zone.
Set the premise of the relationship.
The first thing you need to do is set the premise that the relationship will never evolve to a platonic friendship. If you treat her like a friend, she will only ever be a friend. If you want to have a relationship where she becomes your girlfriend or eventually your wife, you must build a relationship that allows her to fall into this role.
Don’t be afraid to lose her.
Many men will often bend to the will of the woman that they want to have. This is a critical error because if she decides that she wants the relationship to be a friendship and you bend over to her will, it is game over. She will get bored of you while you try to hang on and she will eventually move onto another guy that she finds far more interesting.
Always keep in the back of your mind that you will have far more to gain than what you will lose. If she wants to go for what she thinks is the next best option, then let her go. No matter how beautiful or stunning she looks, you must have her accept that the direction of the relationship will go towards intimacy or marriage. If she doesn’t accept this, find another suitable partner who is willing to have that type of relationship.
Don’t be seen as the “nice guy”.
Nice guys finish last. And even though girls say they want to have a nice guy, there is a big difference between what they say they want and what they are actually attracted to. Nice guys are often seen as being weak and not bold enough for their liking.
The thing is, many nice guys are actually the perfect man that these women are looking for, but these women aren’t giving them a chance because they aren’t attracting them in the right way.
You need to identify if you are giving off “nice guy vibes” and change it to a vibe that radiates confidence and boldness. You can still be a nice guy, but nice guys are boring.
Neil Strauss, who published the book “Rules of the game” described the ideal way to attract a woman as being “cocky-funny”. These guys are seen as being bold and confident in their approach and interaction with women, friends and people in general. They are the ones that attract people rather than being the one that burdens the group. You can click here to buy the book on Amazon.
Women want to marry the nice guys, but you need to amplify your persona to radiate uniqueness, boldness and confidence to attract them.
Only ever meet her for dates that can lead to something more in the relationship.
If she wants you to just hang out and keep her company, don’t. She may need a friend, but you are going for your promised which is a girlfriend and ultimately a wife. If you want to get from being seen as a friend to boyfriend, never ever stray from this path.
How do I know if I am in the friend zone?
There are several ways that have been shown across the web already and in television shows. In a nutshell:
- She won’t show any intimate interest in you.
- She will hang out with you in the company of others.
- She won’t communicate with you in the way that a girlfriend of wife will.
- She will prioritise others over you.
- She will be polite to you, but not interested in you.
If you are in the friendzone, you have a couple of options.
- Change the context so she knows that you want a non-friendship relationship.
- If she only wants a friendship, leave that relationship and move onto the next one.
If she doesn’t want to invest her love-interest in you, she will be wasting your time. Best to cut your losses and move onto something better. Trust me, there will be someone much better.
How can you get out of the friendzone fast?
Tell her how you are interested in her. Confess your affection for her and set the premise for the two of you to become boyfriend and girlfriend. She will either agree or disagree. If she disagrees, move on fast. If she agrees, then go on dates that build the relationship into something meaningful.
If you have escaped the friend zone, share your story in the comments below.